Making Sense Out of the Senseless

Americans are reeling again from yet another horrific mass shooting, this time in the hallowed space of a church in southern Texas. Twenty-six people lost their lives (several of them were children). In just the past few months we’ve witnessed terror strikes at an outdoor concert in Las Vegas, a Maryland bank, a park in Manhattan. As the attacks are becoming more common in these most ordinary of places, Americans are feeling more and more…

Sex: Talking to Your Little Ones

Talking to Your Little Ones About the Big Topic of Sex A much repeated sentence we hear at our Theology of the Body retreats and courses is, “I wish I heard this when I was younger!” or “I wish my parents were able to give me such a positive and beautiful message about the gift of sexuality!” Well, we can’t change the past, but by His grace we can certainly affect the present and hopefully…

Homily for The Fifth Sunday of Easter – Year A

Jesus the Bridegroom Wants to Bring Us Home to Perfect Communion This week’s Gospel comes from John 14.  Early on, the passage focuses on an image of Heaven, an eternal house with many dwelling places where the inhabitants enjoy communion with God. “In my Father’s house there are many dwelling places.  If there were not, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you?  And if I go and…

Jesus and the Whistling Gypsy Rover

  Not long ago I was driving my wide-eyed and wonder-filled six-year old daughter Clare to school and we decided to listen to the Clancy Brothers and Tommy Makem’s rendition of The Whistlin’ Gypsy Rover. (I start priming my kiddos for St. Patrick’s Day in February. Actually, we’re always celebrating St. Patrick’s Day at our house). If you’re Irish, you might know this tune, which has been covered by a bunch of singers over the years, slightly tweaked…

Marriage Made in Heaven

When I was 15 years old, my parents divorced. I was just beginning high school, and found an outlet for my angst over our family’s dissolution in the fine art classes I took with Mrs. Bridge. There in the studio amidst the shards of misfired ceramic pots, the paint speckled tables and the scent of turpentine and oils, I was spilling my heart into the projects she’d assign to us. One assignment I recall was…

Will You Be Mine? TOB & Valentine’s Day

Remember Valentine’s Day in grade school, when you’d decorate a mailbox for your desk? It could either be the best day, or the worst. Maybe your mailbox would be filled with candy and a little perforated Hallmark card from your secret crush! Or maybe that secret crush would walk right past the decorated box, (that secretly symbolized your vulnerable heart) or EVEN worse – drop in a card that read “Happy Valentine’s Day, friend?” Oh,…

Meant to Aid All Humanity: TOB, Fertility & Love

When I began my training to become a FertilityCare Practitioner, I was immediately drawn to learning the varied motivations behind why women and couples were coming to me to learn the Creighton Model, a system of true family planning and authentic women’s healthcare. The Creighton Model empowers women and couples to learn their times of fertility and infertility by observing biomarkers so to achieve and postpone pregnancy and monitor health. I found the reasons to…

Risky Business – A Man’s Take on Risk & Relationships

To start, let’s have a basic lesson in risk and investing. Keeping it simple – when you make an investment, the rate of return is usually based on a mathematical formula with a key factor being calculated risk. Why invest? Because we seek some sort of gain or growth on what we put in. You start a business to make money, you buy stocks to be paid dividends, etc. etc.   You give something with the…

“Family, Become What You Are!”

In order to prepare our hearts for the World Meeting of Families later this month, let’s spend some time reflecting on this incredible saint-making machine that God has given us in the human family. Having come from a family and been invited to form another by God’s grace, I have personally experienced in joy (and pain) the great power latent in family life. Family life can pull the selfless out of the self-centered, reorient the…

Burned By NFP

Burned By NFP

Nobody told me how hard natural family planning (NFP) would be. Nobody told me how hard marriage would be. No one told me how hard fatherhood would be. At least I don’t remember anyone giving me full disclosure twenty plus years ago. Then again, I probably wasn’t listening. I was too much in love. For those early years Melanie and I were in that “roaring fire” new love. That’s that exuberant young love that gives…