Coming to Our Senses

Growing Confusion on Gender Identity I read an article recently about a gay man who met a woman at a brunch in Los Angeles. The woman had transitioned to becoming a “man” through hormone therapy (testosterone injections giving her facial hair, more muscle mass, etc), and this transgender “man” then began dating the gay man, thereby becoming a gay trans “man.” They soon got “married” in a same sex “marriage” ceremony. The gay trans “man”…

Homily for The Fifth Sunday of Easter – Year A

Jesus the Bridegroom Wants to Bring Us Home to Perfect Communion This week’s Gospel comes from John 14.  Early on, the passage focuses on an image of Heaven, an eternal house with many dwelling places where the inhabitants enjoy communion with God. “In my Father’s house there are many dwelling places.  If there were not, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you?  And if I go and…

Marriage Made in Heaven

When I was 15 years old, my parents divorced. I was just beginning high school, and found an outlet for my angst over our family’s dissolution in the fine art classes I took with Mrs. Bridge. There in the studio amidst the shards of misfired ceramic pots, the paint speckled tables and the scent of turpentine and oils, I was spilling my heart into the projects she’d assign to us. One assignment I recall was…

Will You Be Mine? TOB & Valentine’s Day

Remember Valentine’s Day in grade school, when you’d decorate a mailbox for your desk? It could either be the best day, or the worst. Maybe your mailbox would be filled with candy and a little perforated Hallmark card from your secret crush! Or maybe that secret crush would walk right past the decorated box, (that secretly symbolized your vulnerable heart) or EVEN worse – drop in a card that read “Happy Valentine’s Day, friend?” Oh,…

“Family, Become What You Are!”

In order to prepare our hearts for the World Meeting of Families later this month, let’s spend some time reflecting on this incredible saint-making machine that God has given us in the human family. Having come from a family and been invited to form another by God’s grace, I have personally experienced in joy (and pain) the great power latent in family life. Family life can pull the selfless out of the self-centered, reorient the…

Part 2/3: Is there a Superior Vocation?

This article is the second of a trilogy on the theme of vocation. Click here for the first article. Next week’s article is on the discernment of one’s particular vocation.  Probably the second most quoted non-biblical thought for Catholics after St. Augustine’s verse on our hearts being “restless until they rest in Him” is that of St. Irenaeus from the second century. I’m so confident you know it that I’ll just leave the end off for now… “The…

Part 1/3: Which Vocation is “More Perfect”?

This article is the first of a trilogy on the theme of vocation. Click here for the second article, discussing whether an objectively superior vocation exists. A chapel bell tolls before dawn, sending a summons to the sleeper to arise. Jesus is calling. “All for you my beloved,” the sleeper whispers, “this day, each step, every breath, through You, with You, in You.” As morning breaks over the world, the chalice is lifted high from the altar in the cloister. And God’s presence is felt…

Burned By NFP

Burned By NFP

Nobody told me how hard natural family planning (NFP) would be. Nobody told me how hard marriage would be. No one told me how hard fatherhood would be. At least I don’t remember anyone giving me full disclosure twenty plus years ago. Then again, I probably wasn’t listening. I was too much in love. For those early years Melanie and I were in that “roaring fire” new love. That’s that exuberant young love that gives…

WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN

WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN

What does it mean to be a man? What does it mean to be a woman? Are there distinctions or differences? Are they merely biological concepts? Can they be manipulated and conditioned? Can we alter, recreate or refashion our bodies however we want? Is our sexual identity as male and female just like parts that can be replaced or rearranged? Or is there something more than just biology about our bodies? Is there a theology?…